Me in a Tree

Archive for November, 2012

30Nov

Did you know there might be as little as 200 face to face words spoken between family members in a 24 hour period and most of them are barks or orders like “finish what’s on your plate” or “hurry up and go to bed”. With our hyperactive life

styles there seems to be very little time for sitting down and having the “how was your day?” and “what’s going on in school?” conversation. Parents often lose sight of the fact something as simple as having a conversation with their child will not only deepen the relationship, increase their self esteem, but will make them feel more loved. We are caught in a cycle of running around putting children in too many activities to hone their skills and talents trying to boost their confidence and self esteem yet something as simple as having a real conversation, where children speak about their fears, doubts and apprehensions without the worry of the parent getting angry, criticizing or giving immediate advice, will actually help the child feel more important, more than any activity could do.Activities can build confidence, but giving a child a sense of what they can do, by time spent talking with them, can give them a sense of who they are. Making time every day to listen to your child is perhaps one of the best gifts you can ever give them; it does not get simpler than that!

26Nov

We all know that for a healthy relationship to flourish and remain strong, we need to work on the negative aspects that pop up: removing the disrespect, improving communication, eliminating criticism, reducing the arguing and so on. But did you know one of the best ways to keep a strong relationship is not how well you fix all the negatives but how well you build the positives?

We spend too much time focusing on what we are doing wrong that we forget to build on what we are doing right! Every family has its own way of doing things and every family has its strengths but how often do we focus of that?

 

Ask Yourself:

When was the last time your family spent time together, laughing, talking and having fun?

When was the last time you spent time thinking about what qualities you love most about your spouse or a really good moment you had with you children?

Oprah Winfrey once said “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” By focusing on the positives in the relationship, the relationships will become stronger and you will have a closer feeling of connection.

Next time you start to think of the things that bother you the most or you wish you could change, stop and focus on the positive. Schedule time to do this each day and then remember to share them with your partner and children what you appreciate most about them. You can also try using the gratitude journal in Meinatree.com. Let us know what you think!

14Nov

Do you feel like you’re the only person in your home doing all the work? Getting your family on board in sharing the load is one of the keys to a successful family. It is proven that families that share the responsibilities are usually healthier and happier, than in families where one person does ALL the work.

Here is a video on how Me In A Tree can help.

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Children can be quite happy with being disorganized, as they run around leaving a mess with no consequences, and your spouse may be perfectly happy with how things are, but it’s never too late to change that. By assigning chores and responsibilities you are actually doing your children a favour. Children who participate in the work load have a better self esteem; they learn the importance of completing an assignment and being part of the team, but the most favorable benefit is that the stress of doing it all yourself will be gone. This opportunity will allow you to have more time to spend as you wish and what Mom does not want that?

To start and to keep your children motivated, Me in a Tree has created a fun and easy to use tool.  My Duties will help you delegate, keep track, assign points and send motivating notes. The children will know exactly what needs to done and when. On MeInATree.com, when tasks are completed they earn toozles, which they can plant and watch grow, how fun and motivating is that?