Me in a Tree
22Sep

Peaceful Parenting

by Eva Macyszyn, BSW, RSW
I'm grateful for you!

I’m grateful for you!

 

Parents, you know this scene is all too familiar: you are in the grocery store, and your kid starts screaming and acting out. It’s stressful, and when kids act out, a common response by parents is to get angry and punish their children. There are days when choosing to act calmly toward your children will be a struggle. Use these five tips to help you ease the transition to peaceful parenting.

 

1: Check Yourself

You must make a commitment to regulate your emotions. When you feel upset, stop and take note of what you are feeling. What is your body doing? Then, just breathe. When you know what you are feeling, you have more power to control it.

2: Explain

Sometimes children don’t understand why their parents are upset. Explaining what made you upset sets both you and your children up to solve problems collaboratively.

3: Connect

Positive parenting works on connection. To build trust and a cooperative relationship, you should spend at least 15 minutes per day connecting one-on-one with each child.

4: Set limits

Positive, peaceful parenting requires some flexibility; however, you will still need to set limits. The key is setting the limit before you get angry or upset. Instead, empathize with your child’s perspective. Before long, your child will want to cooperate with you.

5: Expect emotions

People have a tendency to push down negative emotions, and in order to heal, those emotions must be let out. A similar thing happens with children. When you punish them for certain behaviours, they label those resulting emotions as bad. Once you stop punishing them for bad behaviour and respond to the situation calmly, those negative emotions are likely to surface.

 

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