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22Jul

Parents, it’s not a talk that you ever look forward to, butMe in a Tree talking about sex with your children early on can be beneficial to their development. Opening up the conversation allows your child to ask questions and alleviate any awkwardness that naturally arises from the subject. Having micro-conversations and talking about sex many times throughout your child’s development, starting once your child can use language, eliminates the need for the long “birds and the bees” talk.

A key thing to remember is to keep your answers and explanations age-appropriate. As your child develops and starts to process more information, you can provide more detail in conversations.

Never avoid a teachable moment, even if they are at the most unexpected times – at the supermarket, for example. Dive in and offer accurate information whenever your child sashays anywhere near the topic of sex. If you are in a public place, you can simply tell your child that you will talk about either in the car or at home. It is important, however, to return to the subject. Don’t let it fall by wayside.

This is not an easy topic to talk about, but there are plenty of resources to help you out:

  • Find a support group of parents who are in the same situation. Talking with other parents may give you some tips for your conversations with your child.
  • Go to a library or even search on online (be careful about the credibility of websites!) to find age-appropriate resources to kick start your discussions about sex with your children.
24Jun

Speaking up and voicing opinions are important things to learn as a child, but most children are unaware of when they should or should not speak up. Parents often send mixed messages to their children about their role in communication. Messages can often amount to “you can talk, but only when it’s convenient”. It is important that children know that they have the freedom to voice their opinions.

As your children grow older, they will develop the confidence to speak up when they don’t understand or need something, when they have an idea or opinion, or when they are communicating their feelings. Parents, in turn, must create this communication space and encourage open dialogue with their children.

The keystone to this process is lending a listening ear. Not only do children need to voice their opinions, but they also need to be reassured that their opinions are not falling on deaf ears. Listen actively, and listen always.

According to a study done by the Stranmillis University College, children want to be involved in the learning and decision-making process. They explore and investigate what the issue is, whether it is a need, like, or dislike. This active participation is beneficial to their overall development, so make it priority to involve your children in any decisions that are relevant to them.

And, besides, kids say the darndest (and often truthful) things: check out this cute video.

Sources:
Yahoo.com: The Importanice of Listening to Your Child
Uncommon Parenting: Affirming Your Child’s Voice: How and When to Encourage Your Child to Speak Up
YouTube.com: Bill Cosby’s Kids Say the Darndest Things

7Jun

A family that eats together, stays together. It’s an increasing trend that as families become busier Me in a Treewith extracurricular activities, work, friends, and other things, there is no room to sit down and eat as a family unit. However, experts say that this is a key predictor of how your children will act in adolescence. The more children eat with their families, the better they do in school, and the less they will get involved in unsavory situations.

Meals are an interesting activity because for some reason, it opens up lines of communication. Families who eat together, talk to each other more. There is a safety involved in dinner conversation. Children are more likely to be open to talk to their parents when something is bothering them. This is very beneficial, especially in the angst-filled teenage years.

Another important benefit from eating together is that it is proven time and again to be healthier. Taking time to prep, cook, and educate your children on the importance of nutrition and healthy choices, instead of fast food or processed foods, will keep your children developing positive eating habits.

Finally, dinner conversation – any topic – carves times to create precious memories that remain etched into your children’s brains. This forms a bond between you and your child and is incredibly important for their development.

So, take the time to sit down with your children. It may not always be convenient, but it’s worth the effort. Eating meals together is a win/win for everyone.

Sources:
Aha! Parenting: Dinner: 30 Minutes to a More Connected Family
Super Healthy Kids: 10 Benefits to Eating Family Dinner

30Nov

Did you know there might be as little as 200 face to face words spoken between family members in a 24 hour period and most of them are barks or orders like “finish what’s on your plate” or “hurry up and go to bed”. With our hyperactive life

styles there seems to be very little time for sitting down and having the “how was your day?” and “what’s going on in school?” conversation. Parents often lose sight of the fact something as simple as having a conversation with their child will not only deepen the relationship, increase their self esteem, but will make them feel more loved. We are caught in a cycle of running around putting children in too many activities to hone their skills and talents trying to boost their confidence and self esteem yet something as simple as having a real conversation, where children speak about their fears, doubts and apprehensions without the worry of the parent getting angry, criticizing or giving immediate advice, will actually help the child feel more important, more than any activity could do.Activities can build confidence, but giving a child a sense of what they can do, by time spent talking with them, can give them a sense of who they are. Making time every day to listen to your child is perhaps one of the best gifts you can ever give them; it does not get simpler than that!