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Over the thirty years I worked with families, the number one challenge in helping parents with their children’s behavior was asking the parents to change the way they did things.  Oh, they were usually very willing to give the suggestions a try, yet even when the results worked great, very few parents stuck with them. Gradually, like a slow growing mold, their old ways of dealing with the children seeped in and everything went right back to the way they were. This pattern was repeated so often that I did not close the case until I was sure they were not going to revert to their old ways.

Families have their own particular way of being with one another that can almost resemble a dance. Some dances are like a slow quiet foxtrot or waltz while others more closely resemble a tango or rock and roll dance. And families with many crises in their lives may start with one set of steps and abruptly change to a salsa. Then, when things calm down they return to their original dance, but only for a short time as the cycle is repeated.


There has been a lot of talk in the media over the past year about children coming home with so much homework that they have little time left over to have some downtime after school. (or after piano, hockey, swimming, dance and art lessons.)

It’s a touchy subject, not just for parents but for teachers as well. Our job is to make each child as successful as possible, and we see the difference daily practice makes. There is no doubt that strong routines and solid support from home translates into better understanding and work habits.

There seems to be a prevailing opinion that all that “learning stuff” should take place at school. But the fact is, teachers barely have enough time to teach the curriculum outcomes. For mastery, practice needs to happen. And yes, it has to happen outside school time.