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One issue that can be a serious concern for families is a lack of positive communication. Nowadays most of us live in “the fast lane”. We are constantly in a hurry and we struggle to find quality time to spend with one another. Between work commitments, running a household, time consuming technology and a child participating in extra curriculum activities, there seems little time left for the family and sometimes that puts everyone in a difficult position to function at their best. When time is tight, sometimes we communicate more about problems…annoyances and irritations that arise and are on our mind at that second in time. That means we tend to communicate in the heat of the moment when upset, frustrated and threatened.


A year ago it became obvious that my children had become very attached to the laptop and their iPods and cell phones. They were spending nearly every free moment on-line, playing games, texting and facebooking, instead of reading and learning new things.

After attending a family literacy event at my child’s school, I was reminded of the importance of reading and learning with my children. I decided things needed to change. I knew it was going to be a battle but I decided to start slowly, initiating small changes.

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Family Reading Time is Very Valuable

First we started going to the library and used book store often. Then we cut down on the time spent in front of a screen. We even added a games night. My husband and I also agreed that we wanted our children to become avid readers and learners, and that we needed to model our love of reading and learning to them as often as we could.


It’s a New Year and a great time to set some fresh new goals for yourself and show your kids how they can do the same. Children live by example and what better example than to set yourself a goal, follow through and encourage them to do the same.

Here are some things to bear in mind when helping your children set goals.

  1. Start by sitting down with your children and explain what a goal is. A four or five year old is quite capable of understanding the concept of a goal. Explain, a goal is something positive that we want and are willing to work to achieve or obtain it. Most kids are new to this and may need some direction and support.
  2. Teach your child to visualize the outcome. Ask your child to close their eyes and imagine what their life will be like when they achieve their goal. Maybe they want to be more successful at school and come home with a better report card, maybe they want to be a stronger skater or have a healthier body. Ask them, “What will you be doing to achieve your goal?”. “How do you think you will feel during and after you’ve achieved it?” “What will this bring you?”
  3. Talk to your child about the reason/s why? “Why do you want this?” “Why do you want to do better in school, or be a better skater?”. Until they really understand why they want this and how it will make their life different, the goal is harder to achieve.

As one year ends and a New one begins, many people start talking and thinking about making New Year’s resolutions. We make resolutions to lose weight, exercise more or spend less, but are these the most important to you? How many of us take the time to really evaluate our families and set goals to grow together and become more connected. I challenge you to start 2011 by considering the ones you love most. Your family.

Have you dreamed of a family vacation, contemplated making a difference in your community by volunteering as a family or even thought about the impact sitting down on a regular bases to enjoy a meal together would make? The Me in a Tree goal application can help you achieve all this and more by helping you determine your goals and track your progress as well. This is one of the many applications Me in a Tree has to offer. Check it out!

I wish you all the success you strive for in 2011.



Housework, how do we conquer the never ending list of chores and still have the time and energy for our families?

My solution, make chores a team effort.

Working as a team might means everyone pitching in together, or it might also mean each person doing individual jobs, which together, get the whole job done. It does not matter which one you’re doing as long as the children are aware this is a team effort.

In my home we have a rule that at the end of each meal, no one leaves the kitchen until the kitchen is clean. The children are used to this and they pitch in together. One loads the dishwasher; the other puts away the ketchup and wipes the table, while my husband and I tackle the pots and leftovers. Now the family realizes the faster we work together, the sooner the job is done.


How do we find the time?

In the midst of soccer games, dance practice and PTA meetings, who has time for a relaxing sit- down meal? There is nothing more frustrating than trying to find a window of opportunity to get everyone around the table. I believe this is pretty typical in most Canadian household including my own. The slow- paced, family dinner of my childhood is a fond and distant memory, and my family dinner today looks more like a chaotic pit stop, where eating a meal is simply a way of refueling before the evening schedule begins. But knowing that family dinners are still one of the best ways for families to stay connected, how do we make it happen without adding further stress into our lives?


Time is the most precious gift a parent can give to a child. Parents that are present and involved in the lives of their child enrich their lives emotionally and physically. Many parents look for the best parenting solution to help their children grow into responsible, mature adults. Yet, the most important component is as simple as spending quality time and committing to “being there” for them. This is a critical success factor in the parent-child relationship. The quality of this relationship is directly related to the amount of time invested in it.  Many children act-up or misbehave when they feel as though their parents are not giving them enough attention. Children who receive quality time are less likely to act-out and are far more likely to lead a happy and balanced life.


The New Year brings fresh starts, new beginnings and renewed hope for better  things to come.  Upon that note, I would like to welcome you to our exciting new  blog, Me In A Tree.

My name is Eva and I am a registered social worker. I have worked with children of various ages and families for over twenty years.  Having always had a passion for helping families I have been able to help families create bonds and improve their family life. I strongly believe that a healthy family unit is a building foundation of any society and what you pass on to your children can and will be carried on to the generations to come.  At the beginning of my career I often thought that the easiest job in the world was to raise someone else’s kids, until I had two of my own. I then, quickly realized that parenting is not a job that parents do, but rather a relationship they have with their child.

In today’s world parents face many challenges in raising kids from chores to homework to more serious issues of drugs and internet use. Won’t it be great to have a place to share and learn about ways to handle all these topics and more.

As a parent I am looking forward to hearing good ideas from others. As a social worker I hope I can share my thoughts, ideas and encouragements so that together we can create a support system that will build stronger and healthier families and in turn a stronger, healthier community.