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15Aug

“A day without laughter is a day wasted” Laughter

– Charlie Chaplin

The old adage says that laughter is the best medicine, and perhaps, it is. Welcoming, infectious, and healthy, a good laugh is an absolute must for families. It is important to learn to lighten up, and keep a sense of humour about yourself, your kids, and life in general.

Physically, laughter is a powerful relaxant. A hearty laugh relieves tension and soreness for up to 45 minutes. It boosts the immune system, triggers the release of endorphins, and protects the heart.

Emotionally, laughter helps with the tough emotions by dissolving them. It also helps you recharge from a stressful or busy day, and it can also shift your perspective.

However, the importance for families is that a good laugh encourages unity. It allows families to be more spontaneous and expressive, and less defensive and cautious. A shared laugh adds joy, freshness, and vitality to your home, and it doesn’t take a large degree of effort to produce. Take the family out to see a comedian (an appropriate one, of course), read the newspaper comic strips in silly voices, or watch a funny movie. There is an endless list of options for your family – find something that makes you laugh, and do it often.

Laughing is something that we are all born to do; it is our innate ability, something we start doing in the very first weeks of our lives. So, smile, count your blessings, and laugh. And, remember, a family that laughs together, stays together.

5Jul

Computers, television, video games, cell phones… the list of technology we have in our families is endless. old-fashioned family funWhile these technologies can have a positive effect on families, a common consequence is that each member of the family is in a different room of the house on their own respective technology, not spending any time with each other.

The adage goes like this: “a family that plays together stays together”. This is incredibly true, but it doesn’t take much work to steal a few hours a week of good quality time with the family.

If it’s sunny and warm, grab some chalk and draw silly picture on the sidewalk, or play an old-school game of hopscotch. If it’s raining or (dare I say it!) snowing outside, play inside. Grab as many pillows and blankets as you can find in the house and build a fort. Or, pick a musical, make some popcorn, and sing along. Fire up the oven, whip up some batter, and bake the day away.

These are simple suggestions; however, find something that you’re family enjoys whether that is holding a dance party in your kitchen or lazing out with a movie. The take-away here is to put aside the technology or any other distractions, and spend time with those people whom you love the most. Those few hours you take out of your week to spend with your children will reap benefits in the future.

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6Jun

You know how it goes: seemingly overnight your chatterbox child has nothing to say. Me in a TreeSo, how do you keep those brains churning and mouths moving with conversation?

Conversations between you and your child should not feel like an interrogation, but like a conversation. When children are pelted with questions of what they did, who they saw, if everyone got along, or if they went to the bathroom or ate their lunch, they are sure to shut down. Don’t provide a quiz; instead, offer a pressure free opportunity for your child to open up on their own terms.

A great way to get your child to start talking is to share about your own childhood. Kids can relate to you when they are aware of how you lived as a child. This might trigger some conversation topics in their heads.

Even just being together as a family can stimulate conversation. A play date in the park, or a family swim can create moments to set the stage for great conversation later.

And finally, listen to your child. You need to hear what your child is saying to have the most appropriate response, which will keep the conversation flowing.

Keep your questions open-ended, be patient, and listen. These are simple ways to keep your conversations from ending in a simple “fine”.

Sources:
Childcare .about.com: Talk to Kids
The Parent Link

18Jan

Time is the most precious gift a parent can give to a child. Parents that are present and involved in the lives of their child enrich their lives emotionally and physically. Many parents look for the best parenting solution to help their children grow into responsible, mature adults. Yet, the most important component is as simple as spending quality time and committing to “being there” for them. This is a critical success factor in the parent-child relationship. The quality of this relationship is directly related to the amount of time invested in it.  Many children act-up or misbehave when they feel as though their parents are not giving them enough attention. Children who receive quality time are less likely to act-out and are far more likely to lead a happy and balanced life.