Me in a Tree

Posts Tagged ‘life skills’


You know that a proper balance between sodium and chlorine creates  salt,  striking a balancebut what if there was a combination of chemicals that created life balance? Now, that would make things so much easier! Unfortunately for the busy parents out there, this just doesn’t exist. You want to be excellent employee, a rock star (and cool) mom and dad, and a thoughtful partner; however, the best way to not get overwhelmed and achieve as close to life balance is to be good to yourself first. Whether that means you need a Sunday golf game with the guys or a spa day with the girls, do whatever makes you feel good about yourself, and will recharge you to tackle your work or enjoy your family.

Here are some additional tips to balancing life – as best you can:

Establish a support network. Surround yourself with people who encourage you or take your kids when you need a break. People in your network can include family, friends, neighbours, even colleagues.
Get organized! Get a calendar or a day planner, and write down all appointments, meetings, dates, and other commitments. This way you will be able to stay on top of everything. Prioritize and delegate.
Build downtime in your schedule. Whether your downtime includes time for yourself or quality time with your children, it is important to make downtime a priority, too.
Exercise. Yes, it seems counter-intuitive because who needs yet another activity in their schedule? However, regular exercise actually gives you a boost in energy and an increase in concentration.

Ultimately, there is no sure fire way to strike that balance in life. Each person has a different definition of what that balance is. Find what works for you and your family, and stick to it.


The ability to solve problems is one of the most essential skills problem solvingthat humans develop throughout their lifetime. It is critical for nearly every aspect of life: jobs, relationships, children, etcetera. Because having problem solving skills is so important, it is a good idea to start teaching them to your children when they are young.

One of the strongest and fastest ways to teach problems solving skills is through play. Scheduled opportunities – play date, playschool, or a trip to the park – allow your children to experience social problem solving. For instance, if your child wants to play with a certain toy, but another child is already playing with it, what would you do? Support your child’s resolution of the problem by gently guiding him or her to an appropriate response. For example, say to your child, “Do you want that toy? You should ask that boy if you can take a turn with the toy”. By modeling and matching your words and guidance to your child’s level of language and development, you increase your child’s success in problem solving in social situations.

This type of problem solving is not, however, specific to social circumstances. Working with your child to find solutions is a great way to:

1.  demonstrate the skill in your own life

2.  give your child the space to develop the skill on his or her own

Finally, encourage self-expression, which can lead to a generation of many possible solutions. Urge your child to evaluate each alternative and choose the best option. Follow up with talking about why your child chose the solution that he or she did. Before long, your child will become a problem solving whiz.


By Judy Arnall

Attitude is sarcastic anger. Sometimes, it’s a snarky I – statement or You – statement. If you look underneath, often, it’s a sign that your child is ready for more independence and feels thwarted in some way. Does she have reasonable choices? Can you give her more ability to make decisions? Or does she feel that she never has control over anything? Children want their needs and wants taken care of, just like adults do.


For some kids, the long, lazy days of summer get to be really long. There’s only so much hanging out they can do and doing stuff with friends costs money that mom and dad may not be willing to shell out. Getting a job can fill some hours, provide a steady source of funds for fun activities and help your kids learn important life skills.

The types of summer for kids vary depending on the age of the child. But rest assured, even young children can find ways to earn money. The key is to make getting a summer job fun instead of a chore.