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The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life

running up and down the field and never score – Bill Copeland

Ten years from now, where will you be? Will your children be grown and moved out of the house? smart goal setting Will you be a serial cruise ship passenger? Will you have retired? Will you have opened that little café?

If that’s too far for you, assess where you will be five years? Are you planning to get married or preparing to have another child? Will you be changing jobs?

Asking yourself these types of questions are springboards to developing a list of personal and/or professional goals. Aside from the clichés and the repeated statements about how important goals are, they are, in fact, the number one way to accomplish things in life.

Goals give you reason, purpose, and the drive that propels you forward. When you translate your dreams into goals, you transform Mount Everest into smaller walkable hills. Also, goals that are SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-oriented) hold you accountable, even if you happen to fail, but they also help you believe in yourself. Goals also tell you what you really want in life, and how to get it.

Whether you are planning on starting a family or a business or anything else, having goals allows you to set a plan in motion, and accomplish everything you dreamed.

Bill Copeland Quotation
Why You Need to Set Goals


Part of healthy development is learning to be your own person, to have control over your own actions. Me in a TreeIt may not seem wise, but children need to be in control over certain areas in their lives. For instance, if your daughter is developing some self-expression, then let her pick out her own outfit. It may not match, but it will give her confidence. She has the opportunity to be a “big girl” and show mom and dad that she can pick out her own clothes.

As your child ages and develops, the more independence they will need. Once your child becomes self-aware and can distinguish between right and wrong, allowing them to make larger decisions will give them the confidence they will need to continue to develop.

Of course, it may be your “mother bear” instinct to control many of the areas of your child’s life, but this can stifle their growth and set them back for the future. Being overly controlling can attribute to a child’s low self-esteem, which can have damaging effects such as deviance, irrational behaviour, and possibly depression.

Note that your child does not need to control every aspect of his or her life, but only an area at a time. As they grow and develop, they learn many new things, and gain the confidence to make decisions in their life. If you want to try adding in chores as a way for them to grow this independence, try out the Me In A Tree Responsibility Chart.

Kids Health: Developing Your Child’s Self-Esteem


Family…Working & Playing Together

For many of us, the New Year means setting some personal resolution to better ourselves in some way or another. When we think resolutions, we often think along the lines of losing weight, exercising more or getting out of debt, but have you ever considered making a resolution to improve the lives of your whole family?

Making a family resolution means you can focus on “what really matters”. Not only will you improve your family, but your children will learn a lot about self discipline and the value of setting a goal.

Here are some tips on how to help your kids benefit from making resolutions:

1. In order for you and your family to set goals it might be a good idea to review what your family does well together and what you struggle with. By sitting down and identifying your strengths and weaknesses it will become easier to establish where you want to go. has a 5 t0 10 minute assessment that will do this for you.


One issue that can be a serious concern for families is a lack of positive communication. Nowadays most of us live in “the fast lane”. We are constantly in a hurry and we struggle to find quality time to spend with one another. Between work commitments, running a household, time consuming technology and a child participating in extra curriculum activities, there seems little time left for the family and sometimes that puts everyone in a difficult position to function at their best. When time is tight, sometimes we communicate more about problems…annoyances and irritations that arise and are on our mind at that second in time. That means we tend to communicate in the heat of the moment when upset, frustrated and threatened.